Asher & Me - Updates!

Posted by Joellen Wednesday, June 29, 2011 4:21 PM 0 comments
So, I realized the other day when my big sis called (sorry Naomi, I WILL call you back soon) that I have not updated on my blog about Asher's CF test results. I know many of you check on facebook so I kinda forgot to put that up here - sorry!!! The test results came back negative! Yay! But, his stool samples all had either yeast, while blood cells or red blood cells in them, so he's on a daily pre-biotic for 30 days and will have another stool sample "taken" and see how that's looking. He's also on Miralax every other day to make sure he isn't having any bouts with constipation. Hopefully, a few months of clearing things up and getting his diet in line will get him to a "normal" place with all of that.

My update - no, not pregnant - is about Thailand! I've been wanting to go somewhere else in the world to help another ministry and just experience how God is moving in other cultures for some time now. So, after hearing my friend Scotty share about her trip to Rwanda with e3 Partners, I figured I should just do something with e3 Partners too. I mean, they have a great model for establishing & helping local churches and it was so amazing to really see that when people say God just needs a person to be willing to go, that it is really true! Scotty met a 76 year old woman in Rwanda who lived in her village her entire life - Scotty was the 1st white woman she EVER met! And, that woman realized that she needed to either accept Christ or deny Him, and thankfully, she's accepted him! Most of the people who came to accept Christ's gift of Salvation are now attending a small home groups as well as their local church, which grew significantly with the help of e3.

You see, most of the local churches there are comprised of new believers who may not even own a single bible in their native language! They just need a little training & encouragement to be bold and seek out the people in their village and pursue them with God's love and truth.

Anyway, all this to say, I am signed up and on the way to going to Chiang Mai, Thailand from October 12th-24th with a Sports focused ministry! I'm so excited! It's been a long time since I've done the wordless book or even shared the main points of knowing Jesus as your Savior. In fact, it's got me wondering why I don't do it more often. I find it sad that in America, people "know" about Jesus, but because of self-sufficiency or just contentment with the world, people don't care to actually make a choice - that choice really is God or the world. And, believe it or not, even when we think we haven't made a choice, we have... because there really is no in-between!

So, I want to chase after God and His purposes. In Thailand, less than 1% of the population are Christians even though it is a religiously "free" country! Families often participate in the slave trade (selling their children) or prostitution to keep their other family members fed. We want them to know Jesus, to learn that He is the only sure thing, and that harming others to provide for your physical needs is the worst thing you can do for your eternal state.

I'll keep you posted as my training for going to Thailand progresses. I have a site through e3 Partners where you can get information about their organization and where you can also donate for my trip - click here! Please take a few minutes to browse around. Also, if you are interested in becoming a prayer partner during my adventure, please let me know and I'll add you to my list! Thanks so much and you'll be hearing from me soon :)

Motherhood & Mission-hood.

Posted by Joellen Sunday, June 26, 2011 1:24 PM 0 comments
My friend Kelsey posted this on her blog today - if you're a mom, you better read it!!


If you are a mom, please take a few minutes to read this blog post fromDesiring God. I hope it blesses you as much as it has blessed me.


There is a good old saying, perhaps only said by my Grandfather, that distance adds intrigue. It is certainly true — just think back to anything that has ever been distant from you that is now near. Your driver’s license. Marriage. Children. Things that used to seem so fascinating, but as they draw near become less mystical and more, well, real.

This same principle certainly applies to mission fields too. The closer you get to home, the less intriguing the work of sacrifice seems. As someone once said, “Everyone wants to save the world, but no one wants to help Mom with the dishes.” When you are a mother at home with your children, the church is not clamoring for monthly ministry updates. When you talk to other believers, there is not any kind of awe about what you are sacrificing for the gospel. People are not pressing you for needs you might have, how they can pray for you. It does not feel intriguing, or glamorous. Your work is normal, because it is as close to home as you can possibly be. You have actually gone so far as to become home.

Home: The Headwaters of Mission

If you are a Christian woman who loves the Lord, the gospel is important to you. It is easy to become discouraged, thinking that the work you are doing does not matter much. If you were really doing something for Christ you would be out there, somewhere else, doing it. Even if you have a great perspective on your role in the kingdom, it is easy to lose sight of it in the mismatched socks, in the morning sickness, in the dirty dishes. It is easy to confuse intrigue with value, and begin viewing yourself as the least valuable part of the Church.

There are a number of ways in which mothers need to study their own roles, and begin to see them, not as boring and inconsequential, but as home, the headwaters of missions.

At the very heart of the gospel is sacrifice, and there is perhaps no occupation in the world so intrinsically sacrificial as motherhood. Motherhood is a wonderful opportunity to live the gospel. Jim Elliot famously said, “He is no fool who gives up that which he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose.” Motherhood provides you with an opportunity to lay down the things that you cannot keep on behalf of the people that you cannot lose. They are eternal souls, they are your children, they are your mission field.

Faith Makes the Small Offering Great

If you are like me, then you may be thinking “What did I ever give up for them? A desk job? Time at the gym? Extra spending money? My twenty- year- old figure? Some sleep?” Doesn’t seem like much when you put it next to the work of some of the great missionaries, people who gave their lives for the gospel.

Think about the feeding of the five thousand when the disciples went out and rounded up the food that was available. It wasn’t much. Some loaves. Some fish. Think of some woman pulling her fish out and handing it to one of the disciples. That had to have felt like a small offering. But the important thing about those loaves and those fishes was not how big they were when they were given, it was about whose hands they were given into. In the hands of the Lord, that offering was sufficient. It was more than sufficient. There were leftovers. Given in faith, even a small offering becomes great.

Look at your children in faith, and see how many people will be ministered to by your ministering to them. How many people will your children know in their lives? How many grandchildren are represented in the faces around your table now?

Gain What You Cannot Lose in Them

So, if mothers are strategically situated to impact missions so greatly, why do we see so little coming from it?  I think the answer to this is quite simple: sin. Discontent, pettiness, selfishness, resentment. Christians often feel like the right thing to do is to be ashamed about what we have. We hear that quote of Jim Elliot’s and think that we ought to sell our homes and move to some place where they need the gospel.

But I’d like to challenge you to look at it differently. Giving up what you cannot keep does not mean giving up your home, or your job so you can go serve somewhere else. It is giving up yourself. Lay yourself down. Sacrifice yourself here, now. Cheerfully wipe the nose for the fiftieth time today. Make dinner again for the people who don’t like the green beans. Laugh when your plans are thwarted by a vomiting child. Lay yourself down for the people here with you, the people who annoy you, the people who get in your way, the people who take up so much of your time that you can’t read anymore. Rejoice in them. Sacrifice for them. Gain that which you cannot lose in them.

It is easy to think you have a heart for orphans on the other side of the world, but if you spend your time at home resenting the imposition your children are on you, you do not. You cannot have a heart for the gospel and a fussiness about your life at the same time. You will never make any difference there if you cannot be at peace here. You cannot have a heart for missions, but not for the people around you. A true love of the gospel overflows and overpowers. It will be in everything you do, however drab, however simple, however repetitive.

God loves the little offerings. Given in faith, that plate of PB&J’s will feed thousands. Given in faith, those presents on Christmas morning will bring delight to more children than you can count. Offered with thankfulness, your work at home is only the beginning. Your laundry pile, selflessly tackled daily, will be used in the hands of God to clothe many. Do not think that your work does not matter. In God’s hands, it will be broken, and broken, and broken again, until all who have need of it have eaten and are satisfied. And even then, there will be leftovers.

Rachel Jankovic is a wife, homemaker, and mother. She is the author of "Loving the Little Years" and blogs at Femina. Her husband is Luke, and they have five children: Evangeline (5), Daphne (4), Chloe (2), Titus (2), and Blaire (5 months).

Just stuff!!

Posted by Joellen Friday, June 24, 2011 1:38 PM 0 comments
I feel like life is flying by these days. I always wish I could blog more, but I honestly don't know where I'd find the time. My best friend Chelsi is due with her 3rd baby in just 4 weeks! I'm planning on flying out to "help" at the end of August with Cole, but we're hoping that all 4 of us can go. I'm bummed b/c last night we missed out on a really good/super cheap deal for tickets - we just don't have all the money and are trying not to be frivolous... it's tough! But, I'll just keep praying and hope that God will make a way for that to happen.

I wanted to blog a little about the boys - they are getting so big! And doing so much!!

Asher:
- can fully zip his own sweatshirt - bottom to top!
- can buckle himself completely in his car seat - he even shuts the car door once he hops in :)
- is pretending A LOT! Pretending we're robots, that the floor is water, that something he's touching is hot, that he's flying, or that his toy is flying. Funny stuff.
- clears his plate all on his own after every meal.
- remembers TONS of stuff that we don't realize he's even listening to.
- asks me if it's okay to say things - we noticed that in one of his movies it has a few words like "dumb" or "stupid" or things like that, so now he'll say "Mom, is it okay if I say oh my goodness?"
- sometimes, he just comes up to me, almost crying and says "Mom, I just love you" and gives me a hug. Don't know why or how it started, but it's SO sweet!
- likes to help put ice in our water bottles, waffles in the toaster, help measure ingredients while cooking, throw out the dirty diapers, etc.
- has terrible allergies! We spent several hours, several days in a row outside, then on Wed his eye swelled up SO badly that's it is just now almost all the way normal. So, hopefully the end of July will be the end of his allergy season - one can hope!

Cole:
- talking like a champ!! - "I want din(ner)." "I want siss (kiss)" "I got" "take bath" "gwink (drink)" and so many more!! He'll say lots of things that are slurred together but are in "sentence" form like - go for a walk, play outside, go downstairs, have a chip, want an orange, where's the phone, I don't know, want my monkey (which is: want me me-me), read a book, have some gum, have some (insert anything he can't have), went pee-pee (which is actually always poo-poo). It sure is fun hearing him talk!
- gives Asher sweet kisses before each nap and bedtime :)
- is usually still awake at 8:15/8:30 everytime we put Ash to bed, even tho he's been in bed since 7:30... he welcomes Mark with a big "HI!!!"
- mimics ambulances and fire engines to a T!
- loves chewing gum & hates the sun in his eyes.
- has been SOO much better in the car lately - phew!
- loves slides, hates swings.
- loves going out back in grandma's little pool!!
- gives the best little kisses - a full on "mwah"
- the other day, Mark was feeling ill, so I took the boys out to lunch by myself. As we left the door, Cole looks back at Mark and blows him a huge kiss with two hands and huge smile, it was so adorable!

It's so hard to just list out all the fun & interesting things the boys do every day. But they are a hoot and we sure love watching them grow!

One last thing. I changed my business name (for my photography) to Studio 327, after the verse Proverbs 3:27. Someone very local was using the name Joli Photographie (compared to my JoliPhoto) and since I hadn't bought an official business license in several years, I just decided to change my name. It was about time for an overhaul anyway! You can go to my semi-finished site at www.s327.com and check it out! Refer me please!!! I'll give you free prints or even a Starbucks card :)

Thanks for checking in - enjoy your summer!

Asher.

Posted by Joellen Monday, June 6, 2011 1:33 PM 0 comments
Hey friends, I have some info about Asher that hasn't been completely public, but I wanted to put it on here to make sure everyone knows what's going on.

Last summer Asher began having rectal prolapse about every week (sometimes more, sometimes less) and throughout the fall/winter it was pretty minimal with the help of using MiraLax. However, his Dr now has become a little more concerned after seeing an actual photo of what was happening - yes, we had to take a photo, kinda yucky - and now we're taking steps to find out what the actual problem is. About 33% of people who have rectal prolapse have Cystic Fibrosis. I know lots of people have heard about CF but only really in regards to severe cases - it may not be as awful as it is portrayed, more details below. Asher was tested last Friday but we have yet to receive any results, despite being told we'd hear from them on Friday evening. It is a pretty specialized test, basically not used for anything other than testing for CF, so we had to drive to Salem to get it done. 

It was not too bad. They put little discs of a substance connected to little electrodes that make a small area of the arm sweat. Then, after 5 min of that, they strap on a little disc that gathers the sweat over the next 30 min. Once collected, they measure the amount of chloride in the sweat. You see, people with CF don't absorb salt or fat, so their sweat is EXTRA salty compared to people without CF. That is also where all the coughing comes in... salt helps break down mucous in the body, and without enough salt, mucous builds up in many areas, especially the lungs. That is why people with CF cough a lot (mucous and often blood from the intensity) and suffer from different respiratory infections.

So, Asher doesn't really have any other symptoms at this point besides his skin tasting salty sometimes. He does cough a bit sometimes after his naps, but not enough to really alarm me when he doesn't have a cold or something. However, Ash does sweat a lot during his naps and nighttime, so the saltiness could just be from that. Somehow, I have almost complete peace in this. While it feels a bit weird knowing that this week I'll have this piece of information either changing our lives or just redirecting the Dr's efforts, I'm really not worried. God never promises anyone a certain amount of years. And if Ash does have CF, God knows it and He already knew before he was formed inside of me. Even from a worldly standpoint, if Ash does have CF, he does not have a severe case (at least for now) and many people with mild cases live even until their 60's with this disease. I know that in the worst case scenario, God will glorify Himself through our family and through Asher. And best case scenario, God is still glorified and we are so thankful for the peace He's given us!

I will likely post again once I have results from the Dr. Pray that God continues to give me peace. And while you're at it, pray that God gives me wisdom in parenting Asher lately - 3 has definitely been worse than two! ;) He's emotional, expressive, demanding and particular - whew! We've had some rough outings lately! While we have our rough days, I can tell he is learning and growing in new ways every day. Some of the things he says just crack me up!! The other day, Ash was asking Mark to pick him up, after which Asher says "Now I can see EVERYTHING!" And the way he always asks if he can come running with me or tries to mimic my exercises... we sure do love this kid! Here's a pic from our last trip to the beach... hopefully more trips with be in the near future!!!